It’s been amazing to have so much time off to bond with Aliya (six weeks) and adjust to our new family configuration, especially given the intensity of Aliya’s first week out. And I think we always knew this, but each day we’re realizing that that first week really took a lot out of all of us. It sounds obvious writing it here, but the amount of energy and emotion surrounding Aliya’s birth really can’t be explained. So we’ve been trying to just relax and enjoy our time together even though the house is a wreck (though getting better), and we’re all a little sleep deprived, and it’s hotter than Hades here.
Last week we headed up to North Fork where Sarah’s dad Robert has a cabin/house. We left late Wednesday (7/14) and came back mid-day Monday. It’s pretty rural out there and it’s several thousand feet higher than here, so it’s at least 5-10 degrees cooler; not a lot cooler, but there is a big difference between 95 and 105, and it’s much cooler at night too. It was really nice to be closer to the wilderness (with actual trees and hills), and be disconnected from our life here for a while (especially as the medical bills are starting to pile in). The first day the girls just played/explored around the house. Bed time was interesting as every room has deer antlers on the wall which to small children are very monster-like in the dark. But we got through the first night and the other nights were much easier. Keana and Maia went to sleep together and I joined them later, and Sarah and Aliya slept in the other bedroom upstairs. Friday we went to Bass Lake which is where The Great Outdoors was filmed, and enjoyed some time by the lake. It was pretty hot, but Aliya seemed content napping in the shade and Keana made friends with another girl there, who happens to live nearby us in Fresno, so we may have made some new friends. We rounded out the day with some glorious roasted marshmallows. Maia really enjoyed putting them on the stick, while Keana really enjoyed eating them. Keana likes them pretty rare, while Maia likes them a darker, golden brown. It’s really funny how different those two are. Keana was pretty scared of the fire too (which is smart of course), but Maia inched closer and closer saying, “Maia’s a little braver.”
Saturday was another mellow day around the cabin and Sunday we went down to the creek. The thing about North Fork is the locals can be a little rough around edges, and we certainly met a few down at the creek. One group of Native Americans were swatting water snakes with a stick with one of them laughing a little maniacally, while another rugged group brought their skunk-sprayed dog down to the river to “wash it off” as the man talked about his second daughter being a mistake because his “old lady got her tubes tied but it didn’t take”. He went on to explain how he couldn’t find/afford a lawyer to sue Kaiser. Needless to say, we didn’t stay real long, but it was nice to get in the cooler water for a minute. And Sunday we enjoyed a nice dinner out on the patio of the Buckhorn, courtesy of Grandpa Robert and Nana Cin.
So now we’re back in town, enduring the heat, and taking care of business. We got the bunk-beds built and are trying that out. We bought them last summer but Keana and Maia were really too young. The girls enjoyed sleeping together while we were with Aliya at UCSF, and up in North Fork, so we think this may be a good solution to have them together but give them their own space (and save some space too). The first two nights required some “stern parenting”, but last night was a success. Well, at least for the going to bed part. Both girls woke up in the middle of the night and had some trouble going back to sleep. Maia just dressed her dolls and herself for about an hour then fell asleep on the floor.
The house is slowly getting cleaned, one room a day, and photos and videos are slowly getting online. Last night we had our first community meeting for Keana’s new school, Dailey Elementary Charter, where we found out more about the International Baccalaureate Primary Years Program and met some teachers. The school focuses on student inquiry and bringing in outside resources to supplement the text books. Also, everything is integrated, so whenever possible, english/math/social studies/etc. are tied together to help the kids see the “real world” applications. Respect, open-mindedness, and caring are also emphasized in all aspects of the learning, so I think it’s going to be a really great school for our girls.
Basically there is so so so much to do and I’m beginning to think we have only touched on the madness of having three kids, though I still feel getting three car seats in our car and getting the kids in them all at once is a pretty magnificent feat.