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Adjusting

It’s been amazing to have so much time off to bond with Aliya (six weeks) and adjust to our new family configuration, especially given the intensity of Aliya’s first week out. And I think we always knew this, but each day we’re realizing that that first week really took a lot out of all of us. It sounds obvious writing it here, but the amount of energy and emotion surrounding Aliya’s birth really can’t be explained. So we’ve been trying to just relax and enjoy our time together even though the house is a wreck (though getting better), and we’re all a little sleep deprived, and it’s hotter than Hades here.

Last week we headed up to North Fork where Sarah’s dad Robert has a cabin/house. We left late Wednesday (7/14) and came back mid-day Monday. It’s pretty rural out there and it’s several thousand feet higher than here, so it’s at least 5-10 degrees cooler; not a lot cooler, but there is a big difference between 95 and 105, and it’s much cooler at night too. It was really nice to be closer to the wilderness (with actual trees and hills), and be disconnected from our life here for a while (especially as the medical bills are starting to pile in). The first day the girls just played/explored around the house. Bed time was interesting as every room has deer antlers on the wall which to small children are very monster-like in the dark. But we got through the first night and the other nights were much easier. Keana and Maia went to sleep together and I joined them later, and Sarah and Aliya slept in the other bedroom upstairs. Friday we went to Bass Lake which is where The Great Outdoors was filmed, and enjoyed some time by the lake. It was pretty hot, but Aliya seemed content napping in the shade and Keana made friends with another girl there, who happens to live nearby us in Fresno, so we may have made some new friends. We rounded out the day with some glorious roasted marshmallows. Maia really enjoyed putting them on the stick, while Keana really enjoyed eating them. Keana likes them pretty rare, while Maia likes them a darker, golden brown. It’s really funny how different those two are. Keana was pretty scared of the fire too (which is smart of course), but Maia inched closer and closer saying, “Maia’s a little braver.”

Saturday was another mellow day around the cabin and Sunday we went down to the creek. The thing about North Fork is the locals can be a little rough around edges, and we certainly met a few down at the creek. One group of Native Americans were swatting water snakes with a stick with one of them laughing a little maniacally, while another rugged group brought their skunk-sprayed dog down to the river to “wash it off” as the man talked about his second daughter being a mistake because his “old lady got her tubes tied but it didn’t take”. He went on to explain how he couldn’t find/afford a lawyer to sue Kaiser. Needless to say, we didn’t stay real long, but it was nice to get in the cooler water for a minute. And Sunday we enjoyed a nice dinner out on the patio of the Buckhorn, courtesy of Grandpa Robert and Nana Cin.

So now we’re back in town, enduring the heat, and taking care of business. We got the bunk-beds built and are trying that out. We bought them last summer but Keana and Maia were really too young. The girls enjoyed sleeping together while we were with Aliya at UCSF, and up in North Fork, so we think this may be a good solution to have them together but give them their own space (and save some space too). The first two nights required some “stern parenting”, but last night was a success. Well, at least for the going to bed part. Both girls woke up in the middle of the night and had some trouble going back to sleep. Maia just dressed her dolls and herself for about an hour then fell asleep on the floor.

The house is slowly getting cleaned, one room a day, and photos and videos are slowly getting online. Last night we had our first community meeting for Keana’s new school, Dailey Elementary Charter, where we found out more about the International Baccalaureate Primary Years Program and met some teachers. The school focuses on student inquiry and bringing in outside resources to supplement the text books. Also, everything is integrated, so whenever possible, english/math/social studies/etc. are tied together to help the kids see the “real world” applications. Respect, open-mindedness, and caring are also emphasized in all aspects of the learning, so I think it’s going to be a really great school for our girls.

Basically there is so so so much to do and I’m beginning to think we have only touched on the madness of having three kids, though I still feel getting three car seats in our car and getting the kids in them all at once is a pretty magnificent feat.

Graduating

Hey Little Baby,

Last Friday (June 11) was Keana’s last day of preschool and as it is with all big events (you’ll see), I think she was sad to see it come to end, but excited about the possibilities of kindergarten. There wasn’t a ceremony or anything, which was fine with us, but we went out to sushi as it is your sisters’ favorite meal out. Unfortunately, the next day, she got a cold and is still getting over it, and of course, Maia has it now too.

We continue to prepare for your great entrance into the world though. On Saturday Grandma Jennie came over and helped out with the not-so-fun chores. She cleaned the kitchen, organized Keana’s room, and swept/cleaned our bedroom floor. It was really a big help and I actually got to sleep in for the first time in recent (and not-so-recent) memory. I took your sisters to the park when I woke up and we had a lot of fun swinging, sliding (they had to ride on my lap because the slide was already too hot), playing soccer (sort of), hacking sacking (sort of), and playing in the little river there. The water kind of freaks me out because of parasites and what not, but I think it’s chlorinated. Keana and Maia are so well behaved that it seems like they are often dumbfounded by the other children running around and behaving like wild animals. They just watch and observe as if they’ve never seen it before. Don’t get me wrong, I think kids should have fun, but if you’re three or four I think it’s okay to use words in your interactions, rather than just grunting, hitting, and splashing. Anyway, it was fun and by the time it hit 90, we were definitely tuckered out.

Sunday your Mama and I got some good time together (thanks again Grandma Jennie), and we talked about how we’re feeling, waiting for your arrival, and things we were trying to be aware of and enjoy as our time as a Quadripod draws to a close. I’ve been continuing to work as well, trying to wrap up all my duties so I can take those six weeks off without worrying about my work falling apart in my absence (of course it never would, just saying). We’ve been emptying and filling the birth tub, using it for an indoor hot tub, and working out its kinks. We have to drain the air out of the pump pretty frequently or the heater stops working, but don’t worry, I think I got it all figured out. Of course, you’re floating warm and peaceful in there, and when the time comes, I’m sure the temperature of the tub will the be last thing on your mind.

We also met with Jacque today and your heart sounds nice and strong and your head is in a good position. You really responded to her checking you out today, moving quite vigorously and I can already tell you got that Hokama fire. How could you not though, right? Mama’s going to try and do some hands and knees several times a day to encourage you to rotate a little, but we trust you’ll be in a good position when the time comes. Everything happens for a reason, no matter the difficulty, and we’ll just keep breathing, nice and easy, until you’re ready for the outside world.

Love,
Papa

Stream of some catchin’ up

So many good things are going on here that I don’t know where to begin. Let’s see how random this stream of consciousness is. Here we go…bath time! But first, why do you need a bath? Because you had some MEAT ON THE BONE!!!! That’s right, tonight was bbq chicken night, the little wolves’ favorite. In fact, Maia was practically howling it before I brought it in, “Meat on the booooooooooone!”. And both girls really dug Sarah’s dino-kale-mushroom-concoction which always gives us hope for vegetable’s future with these carnivores. #3, The Final Episode, is baking well. SHE is about 25 weeks I think, and starting to really rock and roll in there. Though she does seem a little shy, she gave me a few good kicks last night before retreating, but Sarah definitely feels her all the time. I really should start recording people’s voices when they find out we’re having a third girl. In my head I can imagine this loop of the same phrase and tune, in different keys. “Ohhhh, another girl! What do you think about that?!” with each part of the phrase trailing up slightly as if it were a leading non-question filled with the sayer’s idea of what that means. We’re excited. It’s something we have no control of, obviously, and we have made some pretty ridiculously awesome girls so far, so I expect a trifecta of course. I’ve always said our children will be smart, funny, beautiful, and fast, so there you go. Did I also mention sassy? I should have. I’m still loving how Maia runs from just about every point A to every point B, and when she walks, that girl plants each foot like she’s on the moon. She and Keana continue to play really well together and I love hearing their squeals of delight and laughter streaming through the house. Of course squeals of pain are happening too, and both are really learning peace-making. It’s not uncommon for us to walk into a room and see Keana curled in a ball, hands over head, screaming, “Maia’s hurting me!!!” And of course Maia has a fierce samurai scowl on, hard plastic baby in hand, being wielded like a battle club. She punctuates her violence with a raspberry toward her sister. Short time outs have been necessary and are working quite well in cooling everyone off and allowing each girl to contemplate their actions. The other day though, Maia accidentally backed into the corner of the piano and started to cry, and Keana came over, put her arms around her, and said, “Oh, I hate it when that happens.” Really sweet. It’s easy to say we are more in awe of our kids than not, that is for sure. And then there’s Keana’s humor. That girls is definitely our drop of sunshine. No matter what time it is, what’s going on, or how tired she is, Keana is ready for some fun and games. Tonight when we put her to bed, as she hugged Sarah, she gave her a big “zerbert” on her neck, laughing with delight, her eyes flashing such pure joy at her talent. She’s growing growing growing, and eager to try out her new physical prowess in games of chase and wrestling. There’s no denying she’s growing up, fast, and we’re already feeling kindergarten creeping in. She’ll be attending a magnet school called Alexander Hamilton K-8, and their theme is global discoveries through the arts, the first year focusing on each kid’s origins. Seems pretty cool. Her thirst for knowledge is really beginning in preparation for this. Yesterday she and I sat down at the piano and I began to formally teach her. “Look for the two black keys, then go down. There. That’s C.” I tell her. We count and play up from there to eight, then back down. Then patterns. 123. Repeat. 123. Repeat. 321. Repeat. 321. 132. Repeat. 132. Repeat. 1321111. Repeat. And on. Singing along with it as we play. Her ear is quite good and she can sing simple phrases back easily. We also did a little rhythm exercise in 3/4, emphasizing 1 in the count, which Keana handled with ease. That’s my girl! She was so excited she didn’t want to stop, and as I prepared dinner she sang patterns back to me. Good pitches, not lined up with the right numbers, but still really fun. For a first lesson, she was a smash hit. So there it is, some of it. A small picture of the last month. Oh. And we’ve really gotten into a story just for Maia too before bed. She’s quite inquisitive of everything, so we have to pick short ones so we have time to get to all her questions, but she really enjoys that time. And while Sarah sings her to sleep/calmness, Keana and I have been reading the Chronicles of Narnia. We’ve already finished them and are rereading her favorites, starting with Prince Caspian. Her comprehension is insane, and she even remembers the titles of random chapters. Sometimes I swear she must be reading it. Anyway, time to wrap it up for some decompression time with the Mrs. More sooner than later.