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Limekiln 2013, Day Three: Making Friends

Maia, the Mini Movie StarWell, yesterday ran away and I didn’t get back to write (obviously). Maia was still feeling pretty sick, so she watched a movie on the Kindle in the tent, Aliya and Sarah napped, and Keana and I had a nice little hike exploring the forest and Hare Creek. We spent most of the rest of the day on the beach yesterday since the weather was absolutely perfect. We also made some friends, too! First we met Ayan, Liza, their daughter Luna (7) and son Xavi (2), as well as their friend Liz. And of course Luna and the girls hit it off instantly and were off to play amongst the waves, rocks, and seaweed before they even knew each other’s names. Then another little girl slowly gravitated across the beach towards them as they ran from waves, and slowly folded into the pack. Her name was Anya (10) and we met her dad Chris (an engineer/contractor) and her mom, Cindy, who happened to be a teacher who went through the San Diego Area Writing Project summer institute last summer. Quite a small world indeed. So the kids played and the adults visited throughout the day.

I think one of the highlights was when the girls had collected seaweed for about an hour then decided to make dresses out if it. Luna took the roll of designer, though they all seemed to have a vision. Keana was eager to be the first model and immediately Aliya wanted in on the action. So as the older girls dressed each other, Sarah tended to Aliya making her a little seaweed hula skirt with a seaweed head dress. As usual the adults were all staying their distance from each other until our kids basically forced us together. But through this forced interaction we discovered cool things about the people around us. Like the Writing Project connection with Anya’s mom (Cindy) and the fact that Ayan was in the restaurant business, and happened to be a former owner/partner in the Blue Ribbon chain if restaurants in New York. They were also in the process of scoping out Northern California because they were looking into moving from Boulder to here, so we got a chance to hear about their plans and offer what little knowledge we had about Berkeley and surrounding areas.

So the kids set a plan to have a picnic together at 09:00 today and it was just about that time when Luna came down from the forest to visit. We ended up feeding her breakfast and then they were off, back to the beach. It’s tough to let them be free but also keep them fed and safe (i.e. sunscreen’d, out of poison oak, and in bed before they totally melt down). And that is how last night ended: Maia in total melt down. She eventually was able to say she wanted to go to the car, so I took her and we talked. We were able to figure out together that it’s hard camping because of all the unknown variables. When she doesn’t know what’s going to happen or *how* things are going to happen, it causes fear and having to navigate all the different variables throughout the day really wears her down. Not to mention that she was still recovering from being quite sick. I think being in the car helped her get back to a familiar, enclosed, safe place and we were able to work through some if the issues, or at least better understand them. I also reassured her that we can always go home which was comforting too, even though she really didn’t want to leave. There’s a lot of complicated things going on for Maia that she’s struggling with, but really, she’s doing a great job figuring out what it is that’s upsetting her and communicating that. Even if it happens after a melt down.

But today was good. Lots of play time with friends, they had their picnic by the river in the forest, and we took Luna on a hike to the waterfalls with us. They all had their walking sticks, sang songs along the way, and even Aliya hiked on her own. We had to do some lifting to get up and down from the waterfalls, and I was bummed that I forgot a camera. But we enjoyed dipping our feet in the pool beneath the two falls that were pouring down from 200 ft. up. On our way down from the falls, trying to find a smoother route down to the trail with Maia on my back, I climbed down small crevice formed from a large log wedged against a couple boulders. When I got down and signaled up to the others to follow, I saw a pretty large garter snake coiled up in the crack we had just traversed. Needless to say, we found another route for the others, but it was cool to be able to show the kids a real snake in the wild.  Then it was back to camp, knowing that we needed to get a jump on dinner.

Part of what Maia and I agreed on the night before was trying to keep dinner and bedtime closer to normal time so she could count on something. Luna’s parents weren’t back from town so she had dinner with us and they played a little more on the beach after. There was the beginning of a meltdown as we got ready for bed, but Sarah suggested I put Maia on my back in the Ergo and that seemed to settle her down. So Maia was my backpack helper for closing up camp for the night and it was pretty cool, really. She had comfort and had someone to talk to and sing me songs. She was almost asleep by the time I was ready to head in and Keana and I have been writing since. Maia and Keana are now catching up on the facts about ticks and plans for tomorrow. Sarah’s given one annoyed “aren’t you guys done yet?” so I guess I better shut it down. Till tomorrow…maybe…

Keana’s Selection:

Then we put on real clothes and went to the secret island. We had nectarines, a chocolate bar, crackers with honey, and sandwiches. Then we payed explorer. Then we went the bathroom. Then we went to Luna’s camp. We played on the tent pole and Luna got the highest. Then we went on a hike with Luna. We made up songs on the way there. Then we climbed up to the waterfall. We saw a worm that loved the water. Then we hiked back.

When we got to the camp sites, me and Luna ran to the bathroom. We saw a huge daddy-long-leg. Then Luna came over for dinner. After dinner we went and played in the sand. We played mermaids and humans. Then we went back to camp and Luna forgot her Camelback. Then I had three more tacos.

Limekiln 2013, Day Two: Still Sick but Having Fun

A Walk Through the Forest

9:58: Woke up this morning a little before 8 and everyone was healthy! Maia made it through the night without being sick. Quick breakfast today: cereal. Really nice having minimal prep/clean-up, buuuuut, 10 minutes after finishing, Keana says, “I’m hungry, I need a snack.” So it was really a breakfast of cereal, salami, cheese, and crackers.

After breakfast, while Sarah and I sat looking at the ocean from our “front porch,” it hit me (again) what a huge strain it is having just one sick child. Maia’s part of our team and we need her in the line-up! Aside from having to do extra care and cleaning when she’s sick, her presence amongst her sisters is really an important factor in harmony for the whole family. So while we were talking, Aliya came over and said she was tired and wanted to go in the tent. She was distracted throwing rocks for a minute, then started brushing her teeth and headed for the tent. Sarah’s in there with her now and I think she really is going back to sleep. Now to see what adventures Maia, Keana, and I can stir up…

From Keana:

Then my friend Luna came and wanted to play. We said after lunch. I had some bread and honey. Then we headed up to Luna’s camp. We climbed on rocks to the creek. Then we decided to go to the beach. We climbed back and asked if we could go to the beach. They said yes. Luna put her swim suit on. Then we went to our camp and put our swim suits on. We went down and set up our towels. Then we played sharks. Then we went to the beach. We played on the castle rock. Then we ran in the waves. Then we started to collect seaweed. Soon, a girl named Ania joined in a became my friend. As soon as we collected a whole pile we decided to do a fashion show. We dressed myself up in seaweed first. Then we dressed Ania in seaweed. Then we made a hole called a toilet.

Then we buried Lunda’s brother in sand. Then we laid down and a big wave got us and Lunda’s brother. Luna’s brother was unhurried and taken care of. Then we decided to go river climbing. When we were climbing I fell in. Then we went back and played in the ocean for a while. Then we decided to rinse off in a secret pool. Then Ania and her mom went back to camp and Luna came with me to my site. She went to her camp site to get ready. Then I took a shower. Then I sat on a rock and waited. Then I made quarter stacks and had a snack. Soon later Luna and Ania came. We carried Maia up by making a chair with our arms. Then Luna had to go so me, Maia, and Ania went to camp site 17 to explore. On the way we saw a snake. Then we planned a surprise picnic for Luna.

Limekiln 2013, Day One: Out the Door and Throwing Up

Poor Maia, Sick on Day One of CampingI journaled during our camping trip using an app on my phone (sans internet access) for most of our trip, however, this first day I didn’t have time to get down. So this is a post-adventure recap, but the rest that follow were written while on our trip.

It might have been a record getting out of town, only 30 minutes later than we planned! We packed the Thule skybox the night before so we were halfway there. It’s amazing how all the little things add up to a lot of time when trying to get out of your house for the week—last cleaning of the cat boxes, fresh water, food; taking out the garbage/recycling; closing all the windows/doors/garage; instructions for the person watching the house—doesn’t sound like a lot, but I swear just those little things add at least an hour.

But we got on the road and spirits were high until just outside Paso de Robles. That’s when Maia began feeling sick. In the back of mind I worried that we had finally reached the point when one of our kids started being car sick on long rides. Then again, Sarah, Aliya, and Keana had just had a nasty stomach bug, so…we pulled over once going over the hill to Cambria, stopped in Cambria, then just after the windy part of the road started, Maia lost it. I’d have to say that kids puking in the car is one of my worst nightmares. Hate. It. But she did pretty good and sadly threw up a few more times in the last 45 minutes of the car ride.

We (luckily) got an “overflow” site at Limekiln though, right on the beach and under the bridge, and got to work setting up camp. It was definitely one of the least stressful camp set-ups in Team Hokama history. And since we got there so early in the day, we even had time for the beach, though it was a little foggy.

As dinner approached, it was clear Maia was not just car sick. She had gotten whatever bug her sisters had the week before. I was also feeling a bit nauseous, but attributed it to having to deal with cleaning barf pans (though Sarah handled handled most of the hands-on stuff in the tent).

So, unfortunately, the exciting start to our camping adventure was clouded a little by poor Maia not feeling well. We went to bed hopeful that it would pass quickly so she could start having fun with the rest of us.

Keana also wrote each day to capture her adventures, so I’ll be including excerpts from her writing as well. Here’s a little something from Day One:

I woke up tired today. As soon as I got used to it I tried to wake up Papa. He said, “Give me till 8:00.” So while I waited, I played horses. Then I played with Aliya for a little, then finally, Papa got up. I got dressed and went outside. Papa put on the bacon while heating the water. Then I had a piece of bacon. Then Papa put on the pancakes. Aliya got half a big pancake and I got the other half.

The Last Trip of Summer

We’ve been back a week from our last trip of the summer and school feels like it’s right around the corner and a month away all at once. In reality the start of school is only one week off, and I think Keana and Maia are both nervous and excited. It’s been good to remember how I felt as a kid the week before school in an effort to allow Keana and Maia to just have their feelings about it without me, as an adult, trying to overwrite how they feel or what they’re thinking about it. When I catch myself doing that, my intention is to comfort them, but I realize that it’s really just telling them they shouldn’t feel how they feel; it’s hard. Anyway, there’s sure to be big changes happening around here soon as we settle into the new schedule.

So, our last trip, the annual family campout. We hadn’t been for a couple years—never with three kids—but we felt confident we could handle it since we had just been camping two weeks before. What I found out quickly was that I hadn’t quite prepared myself for the differences in camping with just my immediate family and camping with a bunch of people we know and my immediate family. What I found was that Maia and (especially) Keana didn’t want to be in our “boring” camp, but wanted to be just about anywhere else. They especially wanted to be over at Tia’s camp with their cousin Olivia. There were times when Olivia wanted to be at our camp, since she and Aliya like to play, but mostly, they wanted to be somewhere else. I struggled with setting appropriate boundaries and letting them explore and have freedom. I was also worried about them being a burden on other people, but eventually realized it was up to those other people to let us know if that was happening. Also, I wanted to be with my kids, but realized that I wasn’t as fun as some of the other adults since I had to be cooking, cleaning up, doing “camp stuff” much of the time. I tried to incorporate the kids with that, but if you’re 7 and the choice is to play or do dishes, well, that isn’t much of a choice.

In the end I had to make it clear to the kids that they had to be careful when they ran off into the forest, that they had to let me know where they were going and plan for when they would be coming back, and then just try and let a bunch of stuff go. Luckily that did happen—the letting go of some stuff and agreeing on some boundaries—and we were able to have some good days down by the river and enjoy time around the campfire. They especially enjoyed a story I was making up, in chapters, about Monkey, Tiger, and Dragon. Keana wanted a ghost story, but I didn’t want to scare them, so I told a story of a tiger’s ghost that came back to an island to comfort her friends Monkey and Dragon (a Komodo Dragon). Then it jumped back in time to when they were babies together and all their adventures on the island. That was typically followed by us all lying in the tent together, Aliya nursing, and me singing a bunch of songs. The favorites were Hotel California, Message in a Bottle, Diamonds on the Soles of Her Shoes, The Wind Song, and Graceland. Once the kids were asleep, Sarah and I were able to sneak out, back to the campfire, and have a little time to ourselves. At this campout, many people stay up late with didgeridoos, drums, guitars, and/or singing punctuating the distant sounds of conversations along with the sounds of people wandering between camps. Not wanting to leave our kids unattended though, we stayed at our camp at night, which was fine with me (especially since I knew waking children with full bladders and hungry stomachs were not far off).

Keana is continuing to really want to be independent and try new things out, especially social situations, so the campout proved a ripe testing ground. There were more than a couple times that she rolled her eyes when I told her to be careful as she tromped off socialize with other campers. Maia was a little more cautious but was happy to follow Keana anywhere. Then there was Aliya. We hadn’t been there more than 30 minutes and she took off up the meadow, alone, waving and shouting, “Bye-bye Apa, bye-bye Ama!” She too, had no trouble running off, following Keana’s lead. Her experience with two older sisters also positions her to be more of the mischief-leader when she and Olivia hang out. She calls Olivia “La-la” and Olivia calls her “Aweela”, and there are already some pretty entertaining tales of “The Adventures of La-La and Aweela”. Add a forest, a stream, some marshmallows, and fire to that and you have your entertainment for the day.

Last week I returned to work and we began to recover from this trip, but it was tough. It took all week for sure, and even now I’m feeling kind of worked. We realized though it was also because we were still recovering from dealing with sick cats in between our first camping trip and this last one. And then, of course, we’re dealing with the reality of summer ending and school beginning. It’s been 108/109 for a few days now, not dropping below 80 at night, and that too takes its toll. I have a lot I want to write about the kids themselves—their growth and development and all the fun/cute things they’re doing—but that’ll have to wait.

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Camping, Kitties, and Catching Up

It’s been one of those periods where I’ve been wanting and wanting to write the recent adventures of Team Hokama, but the adventures pile up and before I write one down, another happens. This puts me in a state of hesitation, a prolonged state, a one-month-long state. So I’ll do my best to get the highlights in here without totally boring you with a list of “stuff we did”.

We seem to be handling the heat pretty well this summer. The girls have been enjoying a larger, inflatable pool we bought as summer began, but we still just have to stay inside in the hotter afternoons. Perhaps the best way we’ve dealt with the last crazy heat streak (many days of 100+ and one topping out at 109) was leaving. We planned our camping trip for July 10–14 to Big Sur and it just happened to be the hottest week of the summer (so far). We wanted to camp at Kirk Creek, but of course it was full, so we headed up the road a little to Limekiln. All the campsites in the redwoods were closed due to funding cuts, but all the sites closest to the beach were open, and a few were available. We found a nice spot, isolated on top of a hill, and proceeded to have a blast. Well, I have to admit, it wasn’t exactly a blast at first. The long drive, tired kids, and setting up camp got to me and I admit I acted like more of a child than the children, but after that initial hiccup, I did well. It was, in fact, our best camping trip ever.

You’ll see from the pictures that you have to go under a bridge of Highway 1 to get to the beach, but it was kind of fun to see the engineering feat up close, and it was so high, we hardly heard any traffic above the ocean waves crashing on the shore. A fresh water stream flowed nicely to the ocean, so on the beach we could play in fresh water pools above the ocean. We also took a couple hikes into the redwoods, and seeing the girls tromp down a trail gave me hope for our future adventures in backpacking. Limekiln Falls were definitely a highlight, and we even climbed up to the base of the falls to be right underneath them. We had to carry the kids up (and down) a precarious little patch, but it was fun and well worth it.

The cool thing about this camping trip too, was that Keana and Maia were able to handle everything better than in the past, and still enjoy it. They’ve always enjoyed camping but they were able to enjoy it while still doing more around the camp and adding more activities, like hiking. Keana was very helpful with dishes and watching out for Aliya, and Maia’s coping with a different environment was smoother than in the past. I think part of that is them simply being older and partly because Sarah and I are coping much better ourselves. Sarah and I even got a couple nights by ourselves out by the fire, under the stars (no fog!), while the kids slept soundly in the tent. By the end of the trip, the girls were begging to stay longer, so I think it was a success. Once we had our camp broken down we went down to say goodbye to the beach and hit the road. The girls were awake for a few minutes, then crashed for a couple hours as we wound our way south down Highway 1.

The rest of summer has almost been a blur. I’ve mostly been working and Sarah has been keeping the girls busy with visits with Tia and Olivia, trips up to Grandma Bev’s lake house, playing in the pool in the backyard, and general tom-foolery indoors. I’ve done a few session of “music camp” where we play instruments, sing, practice rhythm, and learn instrumentation and genre (think YouTube videos of all kinds of types of music). This summer I introduced a little solfége and a few musical terms too. I also took the girls to the library last week, which they loved, and hope to make a few more trips before the summer’s over. Keana is really into reading longer “chapter” books and can sometimes be found walking around the house with a book in her hand, somehow maneuvering around obstacles in her way without looking up.

The big event this last week though has been the illness of our youngest cat Fluffy (a.k.a. Kira), who got a respiratory infection and had to be hospitalized for a few nights. We took her in last Sunday, got her back on Wednesday, and went back to our vet for check-ups Thursday, Friday, and Saturday. She’s finally drinking on her own and has perked up considerably, so we think she’s over the worst of it. Miko got a milder version and has been on antibiotics for 10 days, but luckily the big strong guy has been able to stay home.

And next we head up to the annual family campout that Sarah’s done all her life by Wishon Reservoir. Keana first went when she was 3 months old and Maia when she was 9 months, but Aliya has yet to have the full experience. We promised the girls an extra night camping, so I think we’ll be up there 5 nights/6 days. Not entirely sure how we’re going to fit all that food/water, but we’ll work it out. With every trip, especially the camping trips, our Nissan Pathfinder (even with a Thule skybox) gets smaller and smaller.

So that’s the gist of it. Below are photos and video from our camping trip to Limekiln; figured I better at least get those up before the next one!

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Cold Springs Campground: True to its name

WARNING: This is a long-ass post. It does not delve into my philosophy on the importance of nature for kids, and getting out of the damn city (but I think you’ll enjoy it if you want to know how camping with three young kids was for us). ALSO: There are a bunch of photos at the end if you want to just skip to that.

Day 1: We found out about the Cold Springs Campground in Sunset and figured it was worth a try. Every year we have to balance convenience for camping with small kids and really trying to get away from civilization and crowds. The elevation and location in Sequoia National Park made it a likely candidate for crowd avoidance, and the presence of a picnic table, bear box, and fire ring sounded like the convenience factors we were looking for. Of course then we had to worry about temperature and weather, and taking a chance on how serious the bear threat was (which is always a fun gamble when you have three little bear-bait nuggets).

Packing is always stressful. I, on the one hand, am still trained for backpacking: where you only bring the minimum necessities. While Sarah respects that, she has her own idea of what’s necessary. Over the years we’ve met on the middle, but every year, including this year, we had our annual argument of what to bring or not bring. This year was unique too, because it was our first time camping with three kids. We had brought babies before—Keana’s first trip being at 4 months and Maia’s at 8 months—but adding a third kid in the mix is definitely a game changer. We hashed it all out though and found a compromise, one of those being bringing an extra tent (which I foolishly fought, as you will read about later). We also ended up buying a really warm, snuggie suit thing for Aliya, in case it was really cold. Again, it seemed a little a extreme, but better safe than sorry.

Packing took practically a whole day: shopping and some packing Sunday afternoon/evening, and packing up the ice chest and the rest into the car on Monday morning. We got on the road around 10:30 a.m. on 7/11, which was about the time we were shooting for. The campground was only about 100 miles from where we live, in the southern-most tip of the park, but we knew there was a good stretch of mountain road that was going to require some slower driving. Unfortunately, we missed the turn for our campground, but caught the mistake soon enough that it only added about an extra 30 minutes. It was no wonder we missed it though, because it was an obscure, residential road that lead into some serious backcountry just outside the park. We climbed up a very narrow, winding road through the mountains, and if we hadn’t double-checked the map, we would have seriously doubted we were headed the right way. Many parts of the road were barely wider than our SUV, with no guardrail, and a thousand-foot or more drop on one side. After about 45 minutes on this road, and over several very bumpy dirt roads, we finally arrived at our campground. It was 2:30 p.m. and the kids had just awoken from an afternoon car snooze.

The campground was quite beautiful. All the sites were surrounded by pines and ferns, and many of the sites were along the Kaweah River. One thing we didn’t like right off the bat though, was the presence of cabins across the river from some of the sites. The campground was pretty empty though, and we found a site by the river that was pretty secluded. When we got out of the car the air was fresh and the river was roaring, and we set to work immediately.

There’s very few moments of peace with three kids at any time, anywhere, but camping is special. While the outdoors absorbs some of the kids energy, there’s just more to do. But once the tents were set up, the fire was lit, and dinner prep was under way, there was a moment when I breathed deep the crisp, smokey air, took in the forest, rocks, and sound of the river, and found a moment of quiet and deep satisfaction. Our first dinner was a tried and true favorite from childhood: pocket stews. Hamburger, onion, carrots, and potatoes wrapped in foil and set directly in the fire. I salt and pepper the hamburger, embed a few hunks of onion in the patties, and place them on top of the vegetables. As it cooks, the meat juices drip to the bottom and surround the vegetables in animal dripping goodness. A hearty meal for hearty appetites at the end of a tiring day, and almost no clean-up.

At this point, our neighbor from two camps over approached and offered us some of his firewood. He had noticed we didn’t have much of a fire and felt the need to share. We happily took him up on his offer, and found out that he had been camping at Cold Springs for over 50 years. He was two when he first came, and he saw Aliya and told his wife, “That was me, 52 years ago!” His kids were now grown, just out of college, and I think he was a little more than a little nostalgic looking at our family.

Of course, to kick things off, we had to roast some marshmallows too. I prepped the dessert and Sarah put Aliya to sleep in her portable crib. When she rejoined us, and as the sun set and the temperature dropped, we finished up the s’mores, then brushed teeth. Maia said, “Okay, I’m ready to go in the tent now!” so we all headed to bed, Sarah, Aliya, and Maia in our 6-person tent, and Keana and I in borrowed tent. As I mentioned earlier, it was really good Sarah pushed for that extra tent, because “6-person tent” only applies to 6 relatively small adults in sleeping bags. Not two adults, two small kids, and a port-a-crib, plus clothes. No way. We are definitely a two-tent family at this point.

Keana was so excited as we tucked into our bags, and asked a hundred questions about camping in general, tents, fire, bears, and how cold it was going to be. Right after the flashlight went off, she said, “You sure were right Papa, it is cold here!” I smiled to myself at the similarities of 6-year-olds and teenagers. Both age groups seem to doubt you, as an adult, actually know anything at all, and seem surprised if what you say actually comes true. But in that moment, I thought it was adorable and I was super happy to be sharing a tent with my seeming-more-grown-up-every-day baby girl. She fell asleep by the third verse of “Hotel California.”

1:25 a.m. FREEZING F-IN COLD. Keana wakes me because she has to pee, and once we get out of the tent we are instantly stung by bitter cold. I do not get cold easily, and I was chilled through in 30 seconds. Once we got back in our bags we shivered, still surprised, until we gradually warmed back up. I was worried. How are Sarah and the two littler ones doing? Did Sarah bring enough bedding to keep them all warm? I remembered that snuggie we had just bought and hoped that it was enough, with the covers, to keep that little baby warm.

Day Two: We all slept in, for us anyway. It was about 8 a.m. and my face was cold. I didn’t want to leave my warm bag, but felt the need to get a fire going. Thanks to our neighbor, we had enough wood for a good morning fire. Sarah, Maia, and Aliya all snuggled together on the air mattress and were able to stay relatively warm, but were pretty uncomfortable. Aliya had to have her snuggy on most of the morning, just to stay warm outside, even with the fire. The pancakes and sausage got us going though, and after Sarah put Aliya down for her mid-morning nap, she and the other two explored down by the river as I sat watch in camp for bears. Luckily the bear boxes were bigger than we thought they’d be, but the rangers were pretty adamant about putting everything in there, even our car seats. The empty site next to us afforded us an additional box, just for our three seats. So, the bear threat seemed pretty real around there and I didn’t want to leave our little Aliya morsel unattended in the tent.

I took Maia and Keana on a little hike up to the ranger’s station to get tag for our car, and we enjoyed exploring, standing on the bridge that was about 50 feet above the raging river, and checking out the huge granite rocks on the way to the station. When we returned to camp, it was time for lunch and we enjoyed some salami, hummus, carrots, olives, and swiss. While the day went pretty well, Maia especially was having a really hard time. I think it was just too much for her to have so many variables. Both she and Keana were really worried about the river sweeping them away, and our vigilance about the bears had made them uneasy about whether or not they really could be bear snacks. All that and a not-so-great night’s sleep due to the cold made for some struggles throughout the day.

Around 2:30 or 3 p.m., everyone really needed an afternoon nap, so Sarah laid down with Keana and Maia to get them calmed, and I put Aliya in our little carrier that basically straps her to my chest. I decided to go for a little hike to the walk-in sites to see how they were, and check out the trailheads to Hockett Meadow and Tar Gap. Five minutes out, Aliya was asleep on my chest. The walk-in sites were pretty nice, just up the hill from us, and I found a stack of wood, from which I took several big logs. It wasn’t exactly easy carrying the wood, Aliya, and a water bottle, but I managed. I also noticed some big clouds rolling in and began to worry about rain.

After about an hour-and-a-half walking around, I roused the sleeping beauties because it was getting late and I wanted to get the fire going. For dinner that night, I pre-marinated, at home, some pork loin. It was basically a beer-brine with brown sugar, and I cut the pork into chunks for skewers. To accompany it, we had corn on the cob, and asparagus to grill. Unfortunately I forgot the skewers, but fortunately I had cut the pork big enough so it didn’t fall through the grill. It was delicious. Maybe a little salty, but so good. Who says camping can’t be a little gourmet? A little extra prep at home made it not only possible, but pretty easy as well. Again, another meal with almost no clean-up.

We had to roast marshmallows again, and once again, right after we finished, Maia was ready to head to the tent. Aliya was already asleep, and Sarah and I made a tentative plan to rendezvous back out at the fire to try and and squeeze in a some alone time after Keana and Maia had fallen asleep. Of course, Keana just wouldn’t go to sleep. I think she knew I was trying to sneak out, and she did not want to be alone in the tent. In my head I was playing out dramatic scenes of two lovers, just missing each other in the woods at night, each wondering if they were too early or too late. But I finally saw Sarah’s light out by the fire, and told Keana I would be back in a little bit. She conceded, mostly because of the extreme cold, and I headed out to meet Sarah. We sat for about five minutes then heard kiddy noises and figured we had better just call it. We decided to see how the night went, but if it stayed as cold as it had been the first night, we figured we had better just head home a little early.

Day Three: 6:26 a.m., my two-way radio beeps with a communication from Sarah. “Luke, you up? Maia and I have decided, we’re going home.” Yes, another freezing (literally) night. None of us had slept all that well and we all agreed another night just wouldn’t be that fun. As I asked Keana and Maia about it, they were both a little torn. It was interesting to see them struggle with the fact that it was a fun adventure to be out there, but they just weren’t comfortable enough there to fight going home. So we grubbed down and began packing up. It went relatively smoothly, the only real annoyance being the sap that had been dripping from the trees.

At around 11:45 a.m. we were ready to head out, but of course, had to stop for a pee break 15 minutes down the road. That pee break turned into lunch, but once we got that taken care of, the kids were all out for the count. The road back was even more amazing than it had been on the way in. Not only the view was breath-taking, but the fact that it was basically a single lane road for 20+ miles really took a lot of effort. I had the car in 2nd gear most of the way down and I was thankful at every one of the 200-some-odd turns that we had just had our car tuned up.

Amazingly enough, we made it all the way back home without another stop, and pulled into our driveway, tired and smelly, at around 3 p.m. Just a mere 52 hours after we left, we had returned. Our first camping trip with three kids under our belt, I think we all had a much better idea of what was possible and what wasn’t. Still, it was great to get out, get up to the mountains, get tired, get hungry, get filled, get cold, get warm, get dirty, and get smokey.

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Bum rushed

The other morning, while Maia and Sarah slept, I was sitting at the table checking my email and eating my bagel. I heard Keana’s footsteps all over the house, stopping in this room, then that one, no doubt collecting toys to play with. To accompany her footsteps was a constant stream of talking, role-playing really, between the characters she had collected. I didn’t see her at all though until something caught my eye. Out from behind the couch straight in front of me, in the only patch of sunlight that filled the normally shaded room, two little hands, each holding a character, danced around to the narrator’s voice. I couldn’t see her face or feet, just two sunlit hands playing. And just now, I walked out into the living room to stretch my legs and Sarah’s dozing off on the couch as Keana’s crooning “Once Upon a Dream” from Sleeping Beauty. She’s getting quite good at that song, hitting almost all the pitches and remembering all the words to the chorus. Hilarious.

Maia is growing into her independence. That girl definitely has some sass in her step, literally. Today she was standing on the shoe rack which is about 18″ off the ground. I warned her of the edge, and she purposely walked right up to it, put half of one foot over it and looked up at me with a huge smile on her face. I think that pretty much says it all. She can string together two and three word sentences now and continues to dazzle us with her sense of humor. She’s basically potty-trained too, so her independence grows and grows. I’m also amazed how much she and Keana can play together. Keana does get bossy, but she’s also really good at asking Maia questions about what she thinks about something or what she wants to do.

I feel like we’ve been “bum rushed” by the end of July and August so far. We spent the end of July decorating our house and really moving in. The ass-kicker for us there was hosting Iana and Ryan’s baby shower at our house on August 1. We always need an ass-kicker to really get us to finish less-essential domestic tasks. The shower was great and we really enjoyed being able to have so many family and friends over. The next day was spent quasi-cleaning up and getting ready for the annual family camping trip with Sarah’s family. It wasn’t easy, but we got it done. I think we were more inspired this year because from Fresno it’s only a two-hour drive to the campsite instead of the six-hour-usually-hellish drive from Richmond. Indeed, we got up there without much event, and setting up camp was pretty easy since Iana and Ryan were up there first and were available to help out with the girls.

I’m not going to lie though, this year’s campout was not the greatest. There were lots of family issues flying about, both Maia and Keana were sick, there were several cloudy/cold days, there was more of an agenda due to Nathan (Sarah’s cousin) and Jennie getting married up there, etc. But let me tell you what was great. Being outdoors for a week is always good for our souls. Being by and in the river was great. Keana had a blast with older friend Phoenix (9). And of course both Keana and Maia had a ton o’ fun with Uncle Michael, Iana, Ryan, Grandma Jennie and all our fellow campers. Iana and Sarah sang at Nathan’s wedding, and the wedding and their singing were quite beautiful. There was a live band in the meadow too, and our whole family enjoyed a little dance party after the potluck reception. So even amidst the stressful family shit, there really was a lot of great moments. About halfway through that trip though Maia started crying, “Home!” on and off, and I think she was spot on because it was really nice to go home.

We slipped back into our routine on August 10th, at which point Sarah got sick and now I’m sick. Keana started her first full year of preschool yesterday, August 17, and I think it’s going to be a great year. It’s hard to believe summer is coming to a close and I can only hope that we can squeeze in some redemption camping before the weather starts to change. Speaking of which, this Fresno heat is no joke and I’m really looking forward to the decline in temps as fall approaches.

2008 Campout

It was Maia’s first family campout. So far, both girls have been every year of their lives, which made it Keana’s fourth. Our epic journey began Friday, July 18 when we headed to REI to get a cargo box for the top of our car so we could actually make the journey. The Pathfinder is always packed to maximum capacity, and now with two car seats and Keana’s longer legs taking up more space in the back seat , the packing plan required some adjustments. Luckily we got last year’s Thule model on sale, saved $150, and added 17 cubic feet of space on top of our car. I never thought I’d own one of those crazy roof boxes, but I figure it’s okay since I was running out of curse words to use while packing, not to mention self-control not to use them around the kids.

We drove to Fresno on Saturday, July 19 for Iana’s bridal shower and made it just on time. Maia really hates driving and hasn’t quite mastered sleeping in the car yet, but even so, the drive wasn’t too bad. Sunday was spent shopping for food, gathering, and packing. Even with Sunday’s progress, we still had to get ice and pack the car on Monday before driving up to the site, but again, the cargo box made it a breeze. The only problem with the box was that it was so hot in Fresno, I nearly burned my hands trying to get it closed. (Note to self, gotta bring gloves next year.) We were on the rode by 11 a.m. on Monday but still had to stop only after an hour to have lunch in Shaver, due to hunger and crying kids. After lunch though, the kids fell asleep and it was a nice drive through the redwoods, across Wishon Reservoir, and up, then down to the site.

For the first year, we were the first ones at the campout and had our pick of camping spots. We ended up camping above this great meadow but immediately found out that the mosquitos were going to be a pain in the ass this year. Just while I set up the tent I swear Keana got fifteen bites on her forehead alone. But we had our camp set up in no time and I even began to wonder if, even with two kids now, we might be getting this family camping thing down. Coming from a background in backpacking, I always question if we don’t over do it with what we bring, but I must say that I still thought we had a nice modest camp (even though it did feel like we brought our entire house and the grocery store with us).

Uncle Jim and Aunt Christina and their crew camp up a couple hours after us, then Iana and Ryan came up a couple hours after that. It really is great being the first ones up there and I felt we got better quality time with Iana and Ryan because of it. By the time Thursday rolled around, the entire area was buzzing and the 2008 Campout was in full swing. The traditional cocktail party on Friday was a blast, as usual, with a Hawaiian theme. Bob and Jackie always host the party and they did a fabulous job. Their daughter Alexis goes to UC Berkeley and Keana absolutely loves her, so that was good to also have some entertainment for Keana as well. There was this funny little mechanical bird in a cage that Lorraine had donated to the party that Keana found instantly, and hung onto for the rest of the campout. Maia was a great little Hawaiian accessory and did quite well in the sling for most of the party.

The great thing about being out in the woods is that the only thing you have to worry about is eating, sleeping, and the occasional adventure should you choose not to just eat or sleep. Pretty much every day we had the same schedule:

We woke up around 7 or 8 (wasn’t too cold so that first morning pee was a breeze). Then we would go over to Tia’s camp to be entertained by any of the following: Tia, Ryan, Grandma, Uncle Michael, or his friend Eli. Shortly after Keana and I got rolling, Maia and Sarah would emerge from our woodland palace, and start breakfast. A couple mornings we had family breakfast where our camp would make blueberry pancakes and Iana, Ryan, or Grandma would make bacon. It was really nice having our camps right next to each other with two stoves for cooking. After breakfast, when the bugs got a little worse, Sarah and Maia would go back in the tent for their mid-morning nap, Keana would play in the meadow, and I would clean up or hang out. Right before lunch we’d wrestle on some sunscreen and pack a lunch for a trip to the river. And EVERY single time, Keana would scream and protest and yell, “Noooo! Not my ears!” or “Nooooo! Not my neck!” until eventually every exposed body part was protested, then covered. The only chemical she got used to was mosquito repellent, which, after a time, she would volunteer a body part and say, “Here, get my feet! See? This isn’t bad because I’m used to it!” Sunscreen however remained a struggle every time. Luckily we had several other adults to split the task with.

So, after all that, we would head to the river, which wasn’t far, but was a good little hike for a 3-year-old. Keana didn’t seem to mind the water temperature but didn’t want to get all the way in unless I was jumping her in and out quickly. Maia stuck her feet in and after the initial, “What the hell is this?”, seemed to really like it. Most days we would stay for a couple hours and head back up to our camp for a nap, but one day we brought a little tent with us, and Keana actually napped in it by the river. Maia would sleep on and off in the sling and Sarah and I took turns with each.

The campout always culminates in a potluck which is really great because everyone makes really amazing food—especially given the fact that we’re out in the middle of the woods, far from kitchens and real stoves/ovens—and it’s one of the only times we’re all in one place at the same time.

Sunday we packed up and went to the river for one last time, then hit the road around 2 p.m. The girls slept for about 30 minutes then Maia’s ears started to bother her and she was one mad little traveler. We stopped in Shaver for some relief, then got back on the road. All-in-all the trip took us about 6 hours and Maia cried for probably 3 of those.

I’ll tell you something though…life in a house with a refrigerator and running water, after camping, ESPECIALLY with kids, really reminds you how lucky us crazy Americans are. We are by no means rich on the American landscape, but we have such an easy, great life. We had a blast camping and love being outdoors, and we love coming home (and writing about it and posting pictures online from our fancy computer for all you other crazy Americans to see)!

Family Campout

We just got back from Sarah’s family campout, and as usual, had an amazing time. Sarah’s been going since she was 4, this was my 5th, and Keana’s 3rd. I think Keana holds the camp record for average appearances; she’s batting a thousand so far. She’s really the only kid at the campout these days as most of our peers have opted out of the baby-making for the time being. This, of course, has its advantages and disadvantages. On the one hand, we have unlimited baby-sitters and Keana steals the show in the “under 18 category” every time. But on the other hand, we don’t have anyone else to hang out with that’s on parent duty. So while the moon rises and the drums rage on into the night and campers wander from circle to circle, fire to fire, we get out the tooth brushes, pack it in, and hunker down for an early, cold morning.

And yes, Keana woke early every morning, poked her tiny head out of the tent divider in our ginormous tent, and eagerly, excitedly squealed, “I’m awake! Let’s go out and play!” followed closely by, “Grandma’s awake. Can we go visit? You can come.” It was wonderful, heart-melting, and exhausting all at once. You know how it is when you’re camping and it’s so damn cold in the morning that you don’t even want to wake up to go out to pee? Well, imagine that with a two-year-old with endless energy and amazing puppy-dog blue eyes begging you to go play with her. Luckily Grandma and Grandpa were awake shortly after to entertain her while we cooked breakfast. Most of the mornings we would play in the meadow with bubbles and coloring books and stickers, eat second breakfasts, then go down for a nap around 11 or 12. Sarah and I would spend that nap time doing dishes from breakfast, getting things together for the afternoon trip to the river, and resting. Once Keana woke up, it was time to go-go-go again in a whirlwind of diaper change, outfit change, lunch eating, and hiking down to the river. Once we got to the river I would hold Keana and jump from rock-to-rock to get to the perfect spot where the water was deep, but calm. Most of the campers hung out at the river during the day, but by the time we got down there, everyone else was back up at their camps snacking and resting before dinner. So we enjoyed the mellow company that remained and spent the time splashing in the water and cringing and laughing at the crispness of the river.

Keana continued to amaze us with her knack for remembering names and faces. When we arrived on Tuesday (July 24, 2007), Sarah’s uncle Jim and Aunt Christina came to greet us as we set up camp. We joked about how we would definitely be the first ones up to wake the camp, and Jim said he’s up having coffee by 6:30 a.m. and invited us over. I told him not to joke because not only would we be up, but Keana would be talking up a non-stop storm. The next morning Keana woke up at 5:30 a.m. and once we got out of the tent she said, “Let’s go visit Jim.” Thinking it would be funny to take Jim up on his word, we walked over to his camp for a little coffee visit. In the end it didn’t quite work out because although Jim was up, let’s just say he wasn’t quite ready, so Keana and I turned right around back to our own camp. Keana didn’t quite understand and kept saying, “But I want to visit Jim!” Some fresh cherries quickly erased her mind of our previous task and she was on to new things instantly. It wasn’t long though before she was saying, “Let’s visit Christina!”—baby’s got a memory like a pachyderm.

The thing that’s really beautiful about the campout though is the community. Some people are related by blood, some by marriage, and the rest by friendship or acquaintance, but everyone is accepted and made to feel like blood. This community is fostered through a Friday night cocktail party that always has a theme- this year was Caribbean- and a Saturday night potluck where all those camping bring food to share in a big sit-down dinner in the meadow. On Friday evening Sarah and I were working on getting our food contribution to the cocktail party together and Keana was off having fun at Grandma’s camp. As I flipped the steak on the bbq I glanced across the meadow and saw Keana holding court with Sarah’s brother Michael, sister Rachel, and their camp-mates Alexis, her brother Neal, Eli, and Emily (and maybe more?). Emily’s mom, Lorraine, also spent quite a bit of time keeping Keana entertained too. It was so nice to be able to send Keana off across the meadow to an entire group of people that she not only loved but that we could trust. It was also cool to see so many youngsters between 18 and 21 show so much love for Keana.

Sarah and I also got some down time too. While Keana slept in our tent-mansion nearby, we hung out around the campfire in the evenings with Iana, her boyfriend Ryan, Joscelyn and her boyfriend Jahee, our camp neighbor Sue and her boys Travis and Finn, cousin Nathan and his girl Jennie, Grandma Jennie and Grandpa John of course, Uncle Jim and Aunt Christina, and so many others. I’m trying to get as many names as I can in here so years from now it will spark our memory and we can tell Keana about her early family and friends at these crazy campouts. I know this isn’t everyone, and the list changes from year to year, but the bottom line is that there are many, many wonderful people that we share this camping experience with.

Packing up is tough, and leaving is even harder, but with help from the grandparents we got everything packed up and were on the road by 1 p.m. on Sunday (July 29). The trip to the campout was smooth, but the trip home was not. Keana was all tuckered out and so were we. She made it to Hwy 5 before we were forced to sing “the Tigger song” from Winnie the Pooh about 100 times to keep her pacified. And eventually she only wanted Sarah to sing it. That lasted until outside Livermore at which point Keana was angry. Actually, the word “angry” makes it sound slightly unpleasant. This was worse. She was outright pissed. She began crying and it quickly turned into screams of rage and frustration. We finally pulled off the highway into Livermore, just an hour from home, and had some burgers. She was easily pacified once she got out of the car but this girl has a temper. She’s all “cinnamon and spice” 99% of the time, but when it comes time to rage, she let’s_it_out. The trip to the campout took about 6 hours and the trip home took about 7.5.

Luckily that trip home didn’t taint Keana’s campout experience. The very next day she was already talking about going back to the campout and even today, while she washed her hands, talked about how they were “dirty from the campout”. So the campout is definitely on the list for next year, and we’ll be packing for four with an emphasis on the family in “family campout”.